I'm all about balance.  I spend countless hours pondering weighty philosophical things.  I also have a love of frivolity and poking at social conventions.  I'm intentionally ridiculous, often.  Case in point - my love for silly hats, and dressing oddly.

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I started my day running some local errands, and put on the hat in this picture.  It got me some stares at the supermarket, and compliments at the Goodwill.  I thought to myself, the hat's good, but it's not enough.  When I got home, I put on the stripy socks, and the clown nose.  I'm waiting on a visit from friends, and can't wait to greet them at the door like this.  Later, if Missy lets me, I'll wear the whole getup to go out to the movies.

I'm grateful I have the freedom to be such an oddball.  It's fun!

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AuthorMako Allen
Categories365 Gratitude

A friend of mine asked me recently why my blog/site is called Only Doing.net, and what's up with the "No starting, no stopping, only doing." tagline.

The name, and the tagline is inspired by a book that's very special to me, The Way of the Peaceful Warrior, by Dan Millman.

I was first introduced to the book by Ms. Lemon, who I used to be in service to, as her submissive.  Her having me read it was easily one of the most significant things that's ever happened to me.  

The book is the semi-autobiographical story of Dan Millman, who was a college gymnast at UC Berkley in the 1960's.  It's not an exaggeration to say that Dan had everything going for him, at the time.

He was wealthy, smart, good-looking, academically and socially successful.  His life was fun.  But he was plagued by a terrible dream, that used to wake him up, shaking, in the middle of the night.  In it, an awful thing happened to him, and a mysterious old man, with two different color shoes, was there to pick up the pieces, and help him to heal, afterwards.

One night he was so disturbed by the dream that he went for a run, off campus.  After a while, he saw a Texaco gas station come swimming up out of the fog, and he decided to stop there to buy himself a late snack.

When he went inside, the old man from his dream was behind the counter.  But Dan didn't recognize him.  They exchanged pleasantries, and Dan started to leave the station.  The old man followed him outside, and sat in a chair by the side of the station.  Dan took just a few steps, and turned back to look at him again - but he was gone.  The old man was up on the roof of the station!  

This freaked Dan out.  So he ran away.

The next night, at 3am he came back, armed with questions about what had happened, how it had happened.  Every time he asked the man a question, he would respond with a question of his own.  This drove Dan crazy, and, insultingly, he called the man Socrates.  

Socrates loved it.  He laughed, and offered to become Dan's spiritual teacher, to teach him the  Way of the Peaceful Warrior.

The Way, as it turns out is a mixture of many things: Taoism, Buddhism, Confucianism, Hinduism, too.  It teaches mindful attention, and staying present.  It shows us all the ways we get in our own way.  It is a Way I myself have attempted to follow since I first read it.

One of the things that Socrates taught Dan is that life is about traveling, not about starting a journey, nor arriving at a destination.  There really are no such things.  Socrates tell Dan exactly this in one of my favorite scenes from the movie, Peaceful Warrior, based on the book.

I am grateful for this book, and the wisdom it has brought me in my life.

 

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AuthorMako Allen
Categories365 Gratitude

My friend Zorro is an exceptional person.  

Like me, he's an ageplay author. However, he's actually prolific!  He's got an ENORMOUS amount of books out there.

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He does a lot of work in the community too. He has been a motive force behind many events, including TeddyCon, and CapCon, too.  He runs a munch up in PA, too. 

He has a fair degree of notoriety, too. His work is well known and well loved by many fans of the daddy-little girl story.

The thing about him though is he's such a plain spoken, unassuming, regular joe about it all.

He's always happy to lend a hand when you need him. He actively works to promote other people's events and projects.  

He's done that A LOT for me. He's talked up the Big Little Podcast all over the place, and both of my books, too.  He's absolutely a confidant of mine. We talk "book business" all the time.

I often check in with him when I'm feeling a little crazy in the head about something I think about the writing business. He's a valued colleague, and a great friend.  

I'm really grateful for him. 

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AuthorMako Allen
Categories365 Gratitude

My sister-in-law, M. enters contests all the time. She wins a lot too!  This time, she won us tickets to see Cirque du Soleil's new show, Amaluna.

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I am super excited to do this. I've never seen Cirque du Soleil before!  I'm grateful my sister in law does this stuff, and loves sharing it with me. I'm grateful she's my family. 

I'm posting this during the intermission and can tell you I'm utterly blown away by how awesome this is. 

 

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AuthorMako Allen
Categories365 Gratitude

I was born in 1971.  A while ago Missy and I were watching the movie The Long Walk Home about the Montgomery Bus Boycott.  It's a great movie, about brave people practicing resistance against awful oppression. You should watch it. 

As we watched the movie it struck me that the events in it took place just 16 years before I was born. 

That boggles my goddamn mind. I could have had a babysitter who thought racial segregation was just peachy. 

Things were pretty damn bad, not that long ago.  

It's on my mind today because of   Monday's landmark ruling by the Circuit Court. They overturned Virginia's ban on same sex marriages.

 Plaintiffs in the federal suit over Virginia's ban on gay marriage, Emily Schall-Townley, left, Carol Schall, center, and Mary Townley,

 Plaintiffs in the federal suit over Virginia's ban on gay marriage, Emily Schall-Townley, left, Carol Schall, center, and Mary Townley,

I am thrilled by this.  It sets precedent to challenge similar state bans all over the country.

Just think how different the world will be in the next 16 years. 

I'm grateful to be alive in a time of rapid, pervasive, important social change.  

 

 

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AuthorMako Allen
Categories365 Gratitude