Stumbled across a great article this morning filled with quotes by the Dalai Lama.
Some of them are witty and others profound.
So I had a frustrating work day yesterday, which led to introspection, trouble getting to sleep, a bunch of anxiety about a handful of related money/career/life things, a late wake up, and a missed workout.
What an auspicious start to my day, right?
A friend of mine messaged me just now though after I followed his cat on Twitter (just roll with it, ok?) and I started to tell him my litany of woes, and got his sympathies.
As I did, I remembered something, which I told him.
"It's okay. I know the drill. Much of my suffering in this is self-imposed, and the result of expectation. Just moving through it."
As soon as I said it, I knew it to be the truth. That doesn't mean I snap my fingers and don't feel anguish. That wouldn't be human! I recognize what I did, and am doing. I'm moving through pain I mostly made myself.
It's not easy, but it's worthwhile. I already feel better somewhat, too.
I think that's the truth of human existence - a constant series of waves we surf.
That's a valuable skill to have.
Bad days are relative, right? I mean it's not like I'm getting bitten by a shark as I hang from the rescue ladder of a helicopter.
My wife texted me today to let me know about an upcoming date night she has planned for us.
I don't know what it is. I have exactly ZERO details, other than when it is (the 17th of August) and to be home by a certain time.
I love not knowing!
No, not of ladies, FOR ladies .
Yesterday, laying in bed, surfing the net from my phone, as you do, I stumbled across a few really interesting and obviously non-worksafe things.
I love good erotica and pornography. They're often not just arousing for me but helpful research material and inspiration for my writing. These are particularly interesting:
- Audio Porn - a site of audio only recorded sex and sex related things. I love this sort of thing. I like both the inherent, intimate voyeurism of it as well as the fact that you have to stretch your imagination to suss out exactly what's going on in the recording.
- Porn4Ladies - a site of pictures and videos of porn for women. This one really is fascinating. The material has incredible range. There are abstract things, pictures which aren't explicit in any way yet evocative of all sorts of emotion, and also really, really explicit things too.
My big take-away from a look through that second one is that while you can speak in generalities about what women like versus what men do, everyone's ultimately an individual.
Here are some of the ones safe to post that really spoke to me.
It's all about butts and legs and nothing else
"Is that too tight?" - it's like a piece of tinysmut. Clearly someone is collaring someone else, and there's a huge amount of story happening before and after.
I'm grateful to find gems like this out there.
Missy & I went down to visit Richard, who we love.
We bopped around town, had burgers, went to a farmer's market, and bought fireworks. We grilled, ate, and napped and waited for dark.
Then, just the three of us, we lit off our own personal fireworks show. It was amazing. I'm not a big fan of crowds, and it was great to not have to deal with them. Plus, the fireworks we got were fantastic! We goofed around with our phones taking slow-motion video of them. See for yourself: